By Dr. Shamik Das, Sexology
Is it possible to have sex after you pass into menopause? This is a generic question, which haunts almost all the women who are going to hit menopause sooner or later. The answer is it varies from one person to another. If you want to know in details, go on to learn more about it.
One of the first questions that will come to your mind is what is menopause? Menopause refers to the phase when a woman’s menstrual cycle comes to a permanent halt. Along with this pause, the sexual desire of the menopausal woman undergoes change. Since physiologically we differ from each other, not everyone encounters a decline of their libido in the same manner.
As a result, there are a number of women who enjoy satisfying sex even after they have passed into menopause. Let us now see whether menopause really affects sexual life or not.
According to the general notion, your vagina dries and shrinks after menopause due to the lack of estrogens. Since blood flow to the vagina decreases a lot, you experience pain while doing penetrative sex.
Due to the lack of estrogens, many menopausal women don’t feel sexually driven or aroused as they used to be before. You become comparatively less sensitive to the touching and stroking by your partners. Your breasts become less bulky and the skin starts losing elasticity which affects their sexual desire.
Menopause doesn’t only affect you psychologically; you encounter emotional changes too, often making you less sensitive to the sensual pleasure. You start lacking interest in sex.
Menopause brings a lot of physical and emotional changes in you. When you hit menopause, you face problems in controlling your bladder or having an adequate sleep. As a result, you tend to become depressed over this sudden change. This, in turn, affects your relationship with your partner and consequently, your sex life.
With age, you tend to develop health concerns which make you increasingly reliant on medicines. These medicines often have a varying effect on your libido and sexual life. But there are variations in these also. Some women experience increased libido after menopause. This may be because they are not scared to get pregnant anymore. As a result, they can relax and be intimate with their partner more than before.
The bottom line is everything depends on our mindset. If you feel that you won’t be able to have sexual arousal since you have dried up, then it will be difficult for you to have sex. Again, if you feel relieved that you won’t bleed anymore, then you feel less burdened and indulge in more gratifying sex. Of course, you can take some measures to beat your vaginal dryness to enjoy penetrative sex.