By Dr. Amit Joshi , Sexology
Marriage is the most essential event in everybody’s life. It might be love marriage or an arranged marriage all marriages are not 100 percent successful. It depends upon the honesty, love, care, understanding level and adjustability among the couples mutually. But this is really a highly tough task which most couples fail to achieve it. Infidelity is one of the major cause for the failure to achieve this task. Breaking the honesty trust or promise of our partner is called infidelity which often ends up with guilt for the betrayer and anger, failure to trust anymore and most painful for the other partner.
Though infidelity is against acceptance it is widespread among the world. It has its footprint even during the ancient period. Having an extra-marital affair is noted in the ancient period history. Divorce is the common solution most people chose if they found they are cheated by their partner. But this is unfair if your partner really has an intention to change up for you and it’s really good to give him or her a second chance for a happy relationship.
Tips to Overcome Infidelity:
- If you really wish to stop cheating your partner the first and foremost thing to be done is to leave the second affair.
- Accept for the cause and effect of the infidelity that occurred and open up talk, apologise frankly with your partner.
- It is also good to have a willingness to make promises honestly that this infidelity will never occur again in future.
- Forget the past. It is also much needed for the partner to stop hurting with the past or about the infidelity often after the desire to change. Forgiving and forgetting is the great solution and way to overcome infidelity.
- Try to have counselling or marriage therapy that would really help you and your partner to get back into track and lead a happy life.
If nothing works out or come into track after infidelity, not convinced still holds on to the anger and hatredness even after many apologies and counselling it is time for quitting. Because quitting might be the only choice to get peace in life if you partner never gets convinced after the infidelity.